Well, well, well... would you believe it? Another marriage by the well.
In the Torah, we see a recurring theme: Eliezer finds Rebecca for Isaac at a well. Jacob meets Rachel at a well. And now, Moses meets his wife, Zipporah, at a well. Why does the well serve as the ultimate setting for matchmaking?
The commentaries point us to a verse in Proverbs, written by King Solomon: “As water reflects a face, so the heart of one person reflects another” (Proverbs 27:19).
Marriage is the deepest relationship between two strangers. The Torah is teaching that the key to a genuine relationship is reflection. The way I feel about you shapes the way you feel about me. The warmth, openness, and respect I bring into a relationship are mirrored back.
The Deeper Layer The Kabbalists explain that this verse applies not only to human relationships but also to our relationship with G-d. The way we relate to the Almighty creates a response from Above. The love, devotion, and sincerity we bring into our service are reflected back to us in blessing and Divine closeness.
What makes this so incredible is that it defies logic. We are finite, and G-d is infinite. By logic alone, there should be no real connection at all. Yet G-d chose otherwise. He decided that our actions matter—that our hearts can touch Him.
Everything Matters It is one of the greatest gifts we have been given. Human relationships work through reflection, and G-d, in His kindness, extended that same system upward. Our devotion creates a connection. Our effort creates a response.
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Lighting Shabbat candles matters.
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Devotional prayers matter.
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Putting on Tefillin matters.
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Helping another person matters.
None of it is merely symbolic; each act creates a real response. The fact that we can touch the Divine is nothing short of a miracle.
Take advantage of this gift. Show up with heart, show up with intention, and remember that when we turn toward G-d, He turns toward us as well.
Rabbi Pinchas Adler
